Interview with Cari

How long have you been doing this, and how did you get to be a Relationship Coach & Therapist?

I started working in the social service field in 1998 and have been providing therapy since 2000. I have always been drawn to and passionate about relationship health, so my practice has grown out of this. My private practice opened in 2005, with a focus on couples and adult individuals struggling with relationship issues, conflict, and anger. My training in Family Therapy and Systems Theories is my map to understanding how relationships function and allows me to navigate even the most conflicted relationships. I also draw on my coaching certification to support my clients with mindset and techniques to move them forward.  

 

Who do you work with?

Couples Experiencing:

✔ Lack of communication

✔ Disconnection

✔ Little to no physical or emotional intimacy

✔ Arguing over the same issues

✔ Betrayal and infidelity

✔ Conflict and parenting differences 

✔ Infidelity

✔ Life cycle transitions (birth of children, kids leaving the nest, etc.)

✔ Ambivalence about staying or leaving

Individuals Who Are:

✔ Hurting from a relationship

✔ Confused about whether to stay or leave a relationship

✔ Wanting a change in their romantic relationship, but their partner is not open to receiving the support

✔ Having an affair and not sure how to move forward

✔ Dealing with the end of their relationship

✔ Unsure about how to set boundaries with others

✔ Lacking self-esteem, confidence, or passion

 

How are you different from other therapists and coaches?

I focus on helping ALL my clients see their relationships as a vehicle for growth. I believe that when you are in a relationship, the areas that we need to stretch ourselves and expand are reflected back on us. Issues arise and require us to question our long-held beliefs and grow beyond that which no longer serves us. As a result, my clients learn how to navigate all of their relationships with more confidence - something that trickles into all areas of their lives.  

When you work with me, you will get all of me: both my professional and personal training and experiences. I define my style as a combination of therapy and coaching.  Typically those who see me under the therapy umbrella are seeing me for mental health service which I consider separate from my coaching.

 

What if the issue is with a romantic partner, but s/he doesn't want to come in? 

Although it takes two to tango, it only takes one person to change the dance. If you are willing to look at your part of the dance and do what is necessary to shift it, then I will show you how to avoid the old ways and change the dance you do with your romantic partner (or any relationship) for that matter.  

What results can I expect? 

You can expect to learn better relationship skills, how to navigate relationships with greater consciousness and success, clearer boundaries for yourself, and more love for yourself and your partner. 

How can a client make this successful, and what is expected of them? 

Openness and commitment are essential, as well as the courage to be vulnerable. Sometimes it is hard to open up to the process and can feel uncomfortable at first. The more you open up and share, feel acknowledged and validated, the more comfortable you will become. Being open to seeing what you have control over to change is not only vital to success but also empowering.

Does this really work?  

You get what you put into anything you do, and the same is true with therapy or coaching. However, I can’t guarantee “an end result”. You may have a goal to save your marriage, yet find through the work that you no longer want to stay in that relationship. Other times, one partner is not fully invested and has already made up their mind that things will not change and they want out. 

Showing up to sessions is just one part of the process. You need to make the commitment to do the work outside of our meetings, too. Keeping yourself accountable is also important, and why I recommend a minimum of twice a month in the beginning of working together.

How will we work together?  

I offer virtual video sessions and in-person sessions (at my office in New Hartford, New York). Coaching is available to anyone across the globe; however, therapy is only available to those who are residents of New York State.  

Do you accept credit cards? 

Yes, I accept all major credit cards, Venmo and Paypal.  A client may pay by check and cash for in-person sessions only. 

 

Can I use my insurance? 

Insurance covers mental health services; therefore, you may be eligible to be reimbursed for therapy sessions only. To receive coverage, you require a mental health diagnosis and must reside in the state of New York. Insurance does not cover marital or couples therapy/counseling, but if you or your partner is dealing with a mental health issue (i.e., anxiety, depression, ADHD, difficulty adjusting to a difficult situation), couple/family therapy may be the form of treatment.  Certain mental health diagnoses will require that you also be working with a medical doctor in collaboration with me.  I can talk more with clients over a Get to Know Me Call.  

How do we get started? 

If you have not already, schedule a free 15-minute Get to Know Me Call at www.calendly.com/gettoknowyoucall.