It's common for couples to hit a rough patch where the relationship lacks intimacy and connection, and the two of you feel like roommates. You may even find yourself bickering more often or in conflict. These signs indicate that your relationship may be in a rut and require adjustments to get back on a healthier path together.
There will be ups and downs throughout a relationship, which is normal. However, to revive your relationship, there are some things that you can do to get it back on track.
The first step is to assess and reflect on where the two of you currently stand. Consider what may have led you to this point and what needs to change to move forward.
Review things that have worked well for you, as this can help create a more thriving, healthier, and lively relationship. Express your needs clearly to your partner and approach the conversation unguardedly. Being clear will help your partner understand your expectations and needs.
Once you have taken the time to reflect, create a realistic plan that includes the relationship's short- and long-term goals. Start by making small changes and focusing on your role in the relationship. Avoid giving your partner directives without asking, as this may make them feel controlled or powerless. If you are unsure how your partner feels, initiate a conversation and ask them about their thoughts and feelings.
Concentrate on what you are doing or not doing that may be contributing to the rut. Set some goals to improve your relational skills, which can help you become a better partner and person. Learn what you need to know to become more relationally intelligent and implement those skills intentionally.
Take responsibility for your part in the relationship and show up responsibly for yourself, to your partner, and the relationship. By doing so, you are taking 100% responsibility for what you bring to the relationship, which will help you get your relationship back on track.